I thought ‘Death’ meant the end of life as we know it. But
apparently there is one more ‘D’ letter word which also technically denotes the
end of life – ‘Divorce’.
- Oh my god ! She is divorced and still on
Facebook?
- Oh dear lord ! She is listening to music and
raving about it?
- She is
still blogging?
- She is still working and going out where people
gather?
- Why is she dressing up?
- Why does she have a smile on her face?
This is just a sample of what
comes your way if you are out of a marriage.
Well, excuse me my dear ignorant human beings.
But when someone gets a divorce, technically, they don’t slash off their eyes,
ears or limbs. They pretty much still let us go out as the people we walked in.
So I am still alive, breathing and very much capable of seeing, hearing,
understanding and sometimes even participating in what goes on around me.
Just because my marriage didn't work out, don’t make me an outcast. I am still the same breathing walking
talking person that I used to be. Probably a bit more wiser and maybe
heartbroken too, but still the same person.
It takes two to make or break a marriage.
Why is the girl always the scapegoat?
A 5 year old is raped, it’s the
girl’s fault.
A marriage breaks, it’s the girl’s
fault.
For heaven’s sake, give me a
break !
If you cannot stand my updates
on Facebook, get yourself knocked out of my list. I have absolutely no
complaints. In fact I couldn't be more thankful !
I have a life and I have people
who care for me and are worried about me and want to see me happy. I intend to
live for them. It’s the least I can do. I cannot live my life in a shell.
So, one marriage dint work out.
For someone like me who believed that, to be married and settled is the
ultimate aim in life, this was a huge eye opener. No. Life doesn't end with a
marriage nor does it end with the termination of one. For people who find this
concept preposterous, please feel free to borrow my shoes and walk in them.
If you can get as far as I have, you have my respect and you have every right
to judge me. But if you don’t, then shut your freaking mouth and stay away from
me.
It is not easy being a single
girl working away from family and dear ones. And now not possible all the more
so, cause I don’t have a husband. Do you know what all goes into maintaining a
home? Do you know how increasingly difficult it is to achieve all these despite
being a girl? Do you even remotely understand how important and necessary it is
for a girl to maintain her dignity and self respect and yet still have a social
face and life? Do you know what it is like to be living a life where you are
judged, scorned and looked down upon at every single day?
If you have the answers to any of these
questions, well then I guess you should have a fair idea of where I am coming
from.
I am human. Once was a mistake, but don’t judge me
because of it. I will never regret or apologize for what happened. I will also
never stand being taken for granted. I was never a feminist. Don’t make me one.
I still believe there are a few good men out there and I respect them for the
wonderful job they are doing in taking care of the women in their life. And
yes, I envy those women too. I will be honest about it. But there is absolutely
nothing I can do about it.
I have no idea what the message
of this post of mine is. But it’s just a vent of my frustration at this point.
I just need the right to live, like every
other regular girl on the face of this earth.. with a smile on my face and a
tomorrow to look forward to. Don’t come
around ruining it for me. If you cannot help me, so be it. Don’t pull me down. Just let me be.
